To guys: Advice about us

So tonight a friend of mine came over and hung out. It was a good time, as it always is when she and I are together. We talked about life, love, and the mystery of it all. The one and only conclusion we came to was to live and let God. Whatever will happen will (and should) happen because God deems it to happen, not because we or someone else manipulates it to happen.

The one thing we talked about is how guys are SO not thinkers like we are. We tend to spend hours thinking, pondering, and ok, even obsessing about what they are thinking about us, when they have put probably not more than a couple minutes of thought into what we are thinking about them. It’s like I heard it said once, “we’d worry a lot less about what other people thought of us if we realized how much they actually do.” Its totally true! So after we thought about this we came up with some things we wished they would take into consideration with us. These ARE NOT sure fire ways to get a girl, or even ways to get a girl to do anything. They are just things we’ve noticed in guys that we appreciate.

1. Express your thoughts to us (even if you’re just thinking about pizza at the time)…at least we’d know and wouldn’t wonder if you were thinking about us.
2. I’ve got a male friend whom I can talk freely with and who I know appreciates my honesty…how do I know, he tells me. Guys, you can honor a woman SO much just by telling her you appreciate her.
3. Be Real…enough said!
4. Be careful were you touch a woman (nothing sexual about it…just be careful, everyone of us has different comfort zones)
5. Open doors for us, its an easy thing to do. We won’t think you’re in love with us, but it does honor us and let us know you care.
6. Have confidence in yourself. Most women I know are more confident about themselves when they are around confident (not cocky) men.
7. Call if you say you’re going to call, if you’re not going to call, don’t say you will
8. Offer to pray at meals. (this goes along with being confident in yourself)
9. Know that as a single man it is OK to have woman friends that you can be yourself around…not all of us are out to snag “the one.”
10. Let us be real. We’re not all the same, nor do one of us speak for all of us.

I don’t mean to put stereotypes on men. Nor does my friend. These were just things that we’ve talked about that most guys seem not to know. We can’t figure it out. And this brings me back to the conclusion that we came to. Live and let God. There are attributes that we’ve seen in our guy friends that we would love to find in a mate. There are those attributes we hope to never find as well. So when it all comes down to it, its simple just live and let God. He knows, so we don’t have to. So in far play, if any guy wants to make a list that you think we don’t get (or I don’t get), let me know…write a post and we’ll compare notes.